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How to Keep Your Healthy Energetic Boundary

Healthy Energetic boundary

Have you ever had a pain in your body after talking to someone?  Or, have you ever experienced a severe exhaustion while doing your grocery shopping?  And have you ever wondered how to keep your healthy energetic boundary?

Our body emanates energy.  Our thoughts and emotions are energy.  When we feel sad or depressed, we are broadcasting its low vibration of energy.  When we are angry, the fiery, toxic energy fills our body, aura, and energy field.  Not only that, we all pick up all those other people’s energies all the time.

Recently, my lifestyle changed quite a bit from working with people one on one through healing to working with a lot of people in a very crowded, noisy space.  The training to become a healer taught me how to be still, listen, and accept whatever it is without judgment.  I really appreciate that training, and all the technique I learned are very useful when my client and I are in a peaceful, sacred, and safe space for healing.  I loved that slow-paced aspect of our life.

However, most of our daily life is filled with opposite aspects, doesn’t it?  We are living a very fast-paced life with lots of drama, stress, and power games.  By working in a crowded, noisy space, I’m now learning the importance of keeping my healthy energetic boundary.

Constant Energetic Tug of War

We forget that everything is energy.  Thoughts are energy.  Emotions are energy.  Even when we don’t say what we think in our head out loud, we are always broadcasting the energy of our thoughts and emotions.

This is my first time to work in a very fast-paced, noisy, and crowded environment, and I feel there is a constant energetic tug of war going on in the workplace.  There are happy energy, frustrating energy, depressed energy, “trying to control everything” energy…

The lower vibration of energy keeps attacking, dampening or dragging down the higher vibration.  When we are around or in that environment, we sometimes feel a sudden pain in our body like a headache and backache.  Or, we feel a sudden exhaustion even though we are having a great day.  Also, we feel a slight fogginess in our brain and make silly mistakes.

Since I experienced all of them over and over almost every day, I’ve started to pay attention how my energetic boundary has been doing and take a good care of my energy field and boundary.

Cleansing Your Energy Field

Once I started to pay more attention to my energy field and boundary, I began noticing something like bruises, stabbed wounds on the energy boundary, and some kind of shock in my field.  Sometimes, I feel my whole energy field contracted as well.  Whenever I find them, I cleanse my energy field.

Deep Breath

Taking a few nice breaths is always helpful.  It helps us bring our attention back into the core and ground ourselves.  One time, I felt my mind scattered all of a sudden, so I took just one nice deep breath.  Then, it cleared my head and helped me focus back on what I was doing.


If deep breathing doesn’t help, I always stretch my body.  Again, it helps us bring our attention to our body and gives us clarity.  Also, by moving the body, we can release someone else’s energy more easily.

Ask for help from Archangel Michael, and/or recite “The Prayer of Cleansing Other People’s Energy”

When neither of the above doesn’t work, I always ask Archangel Michael to cleanse my energy field.  You can ask your higher beings to help you purify your energy field.

Also, I recite this prayer called “Cleansing Other People’s Energy” several times a day.  I learned this prayer along with other powerful prayers in a book called “The Infinite Wisdom of the Akashic Records” by Lisa Barnett (Akashic Knowing School of Wisdom).   When I recite it, my headache, backache, fogginess in my head, exhaustion were all gone in a few minutes.  It works like a charm.  Here is the prayer:

“Mother, Father, Goddess, God, please assist me in clearing and releasing all outside energies that are in my body, aura, and energy field.  Please send them back to the person from whom they came.  Or send them to the Divine Source to be recycled for the highest good of all.  I am filled with my purest energy and the highest vibration I can now hold.”

All of the prayers in Lisa’s books are so helpful.  They help you remember who you truly are and keep walking on your highest path.  So, check her website and books (her brand new book “From Questioning to Knowing).

Epsom Salt Bath

Taking a bath cleanses not only your physical body but the energy body as well.  Put a cup of epsom salt in the tub and soak yourself.  It helps your body relax and detox.

Steps to Keep Your Healthy Energetic Boundary

Energy attacks and energy drainage happen repetitively.  Also, some people spread their toxic energy by venting their emotions as their defense mechanism without noticing what they are doing energetically.  So, it is very important to fill up your energy field with your own highest energy after cleansing other people’s energy.  Just visualize that your energy field which looks like a golden egg filled with your highest soul energy.  That helps your boundary stay strong.

Once you fill up your energy field with your highest energy, make sure to anchor your spirit into your body and Mother Earth.  When your field gets crowded with other people’s energy, your spirit tends to float above your physical body.

Then, check your energy field whether or not it’s contracting.  When your energy field has other people’s energy, it tends to contract because it’s very uncomfortable to have someone else’s energy.  So, make sure to visualize it’s expanding as much as possible like a beautiful golden balloon.

If someone near you keeps intruding or attacking your energy field, you need to use a direct approach to show them a lesson.  You might need to talk to him or her directly, but calmly, about how you feel.  My spiritual teacher used to call it “Cruel Love.”

Also, here is a good reminder for all the light workers and healers.  You really need to know the difference between showing a right path and trying to save them.  When you try to save them, you take away their lessons, and your boundary becomes weak.  Keep your healthy boundary and allow them to learn their lessons.

Gratitude to My New Work Environment and New Training

My new work environment has been pretty intense and very different from what I was used to before.  Thanks to that, I’ve been learning a lot about how to take care of myself on all levels and the importance to be in your own true power so I can stay healthy and happy.  Every experience is an opportunity and training to evolve.  Also, it is a great opportunity to choose either I create My Heaven on Earth or I indulge in my old patterns, and I choose to create My Heaven on Earth.

"Creating My Heaven on Earth" mandala in progress

“Creating My Heaven on Earth” New mandala in progress.

Over to You:-

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My Precious Journey through Forgiveness

dream & journey

~ How Forgiveness Freed Me from My Emotional Baggage and Raised Me into Peace & Empowerment ~

Dreams that led me to Forgiveness

“Ugh, not again!”

I woke up frustrated and despaired in the middle of the night.  For several nights in a row in December 2015, I kept having frustrating and discouraging dreams.  The dreams always ended in a similar way: someone ended up being in my way and brought failures to me.

The dreams made me exhausted and sad.  Also, the dreams reminded me of the dream that I kept having over and over when I was little.

The dream that I had in my childhood always started in an everyday situation, me playing with my sister or talking to my mother.  However, the dream always ended up me standing at the top of the staircase in my house.  I started to go down, but somehow, I couldn’t control the speed as if the gravity was getting stronger, went down faster and faster, and fell.

Again, failures.

I now call the dream  a “Hell Realm.”  (If you are a big fan of Joss Whedon and watched the TV show “Angel,” you know what I’m talking about.:))  All these years, whenever I have those dreams, I wake up drained, frustrated and despaired.  It feels like the “Hell Realm” has been haunting me or connected its portal to me.

I wonder if anybody else has those repetitive hellish dreams, and I also wonder what people would do after they wake up.  Please share if you have great ways to deal with them in the comment section.

What I always do is to feel the frustration and sadness entirely while I visualize that the “Hell Realm,” an “entity,” or my own fear (I have no idea what it actually is, to tell you the truth….) goes back to the brightest light.  I keep sending my love and gratitude to that dark and heavy energy that the dream triggers until those emotions and energy get released.

So, I kept doing the visualization for a few days at the end of December 2015 and finally stopped having the dreams.  The first night that I was able to sleep soundly without any bad dreams, I felt so rested and happy in the following morning.  I thought to myself, “Finally, my love and gratitude worked!”

However, as you know, the Universe likes to give you tests right after you feel like you’ve learned something.  On December 29, 2015, it was one day after my first guest post was published.  I was so happy and excited all day and was busy replying to the comments I got.

At the end of the day, two people who were close to me contacted me with their bad news and asked me for help.  It was like living the hellish dream literally.  All of my excitement was gone.  The happiness of the day was ended.

Usually, I get involved and side tracked from my own path by supporting them, but this time, my gut told me not to.  That was the moment that I needed to stand up for myself, stay on my path, and prioritize myself at the top of my list.  So I followed my gut  I felt sorry for them, but I felt empowered at the same time.

Though it seemed that I cleared the test from the Universe, all these dreams and events around that time made me think deeper what was going on within me at the deeper level.  Obviously, my subconscious was trying to tell me something through those dreams.  I kept asking the Universe, “What is going on? What do I need to learn from this?”  While I was waiting for the answers to those questions to show up, I dug deeper into myself and worked with my stuffed emotions.

About a week later, on January 6, 2016, I woke up with very familiar frustration at the solar plexus.  The frustration was the sensation that I felt when I was going through my birth process.  (I used to dream about being stuck in the birth canal over and over when I was very young.  So I remember the sensation clearly.)

I was frustrated that I could not move.  I was angry at my mom, the doctor, and the world that I was in (= the birth canal).  So, on the night of January 6, I accepted the emotions, the people, and the world and forgave them.  Also, I forgave myself for not being able to relax in that situation.

Though it took a while, forgiveness finally happened.  Out of nowhere, LOVE started to emanate and filled with my body.  All the negative emotions melted in the love.  It was such a warm and relaxed sensation.

The next morning, some of my chronic pain in the body, especially the tightness at the solar plexus, was gone.  What an amazing experience that was!   I also realized that experiencing the true forgiveness was the answer to my questions from the Universe.

That made me decide to draw a mandala titled “Forgiveness.”

The journey with the mandala

I started this mandala journey with writing some letters.  The letters to all the people including myself, places, and the Universe that I needed to forgive.

Then, I meditated so I could be the facilitator for the energy of Forgiveness.

After the meditation, the number “9“, circles, triangles, and the color white came to me.  So I did a little bit of research on-line.  In numerology, 9 is the number for forgiveness.  For the shapes, there are some different explanations, but a triangle means the trinity: body, mind, and spirit, and a circle means wholeness or oneness.  The color white is a cleansing color.

Also, seven layers of lotus petals came to me.  With those designs and color, I started to draw the mandala in a sketchbook.  As the sketch was becoming clearer, I put the letters on top of it so the energy of the mandala could cleanse the heavier energy.

my letters on the mandala

My letters on the mandala

Usually, I draw a mandala in size 8.5“ x 8.5“ and can finish drawing one in 3 to 5 days.  However, since this one was far more special to me, I wanted to include as many details as possible.  So, I decided to go with the size 19.5“ x 19.5“.  It took me three weeks to finish it.

the work in progress

Work in progress. Letters are still on the mandala for cleansing.

After the biggest amounts of dots and the very sore right wrist, I completed the mandala.  Here it is!

Finished mandala, Forgiveness


On February 8, which was the new moon day and the Chinese New Year’s Day, I had a little forgiveness ritual with the mandala.

In the morning of that day, I created a beautiful altar on the dining table.  I put a beautiful purple fabric on the table, placed the mandala at the center with lots of rose petals around it, and my Quan Yin statue and some candles on the edge of the purple fabric.  The room was immediately filled with beautiful energy.

Then, I put my letters on top of the mandala.  My husband and my mother-in-law joined me with their letters.  In the early evening, we lighted the candles, said little prayers, and we went outside and burned those letters.  As the smoke went up in the sky, I visualized all the heavy energy of the negative emotions go back to God’s center.

The ritual was simple and easy, but it definitely gave me a tangible feeling of cleansing.

Forgiveness mandala surrounded with pink rose petals, candles and Quan Yin statue

The altar for Forgiveness ritual

My realizations along with the mandala journey

Before I went through all the recent processes, whenever I worked with forgiveness, I used to force myself to forgive someone or something.  It was coming from my head, not from my heart.

What I realized first, through this process, was that forgiveness is acceptance with love and compassion.  It is not giving up, losing, or bending my way.  It is the total acceptance of who we are and where we are.  I knew that in my head all these years, but feeling it so tangibly was a totally different experience.

The second thing that I found during the process was an ultimate question which I came across in an article about Ramana Maharshi, who was an Indian sage.  The question is “Who am I?”

Since I read the article, every time some negative feelings or thoughts pops in me, I asked that question to myself.  “Who am I?  Am I this feeling or thought?  Or am I the vehicle of the divinity?”  That conversation with myself instantly brought me back to my authenticity and made it so easy for me to forgive and let go.

Lastly, when something uncomfortable happens between someone else and myself, it is the excellent opportunity to communicate my true feelings and solutions to the other person.  To be able to do that, I need to be grounded fully without being nice to the person only on the surface, being victimizing myself or stuffing the emotions within.

When my negative feelings get triggered, it is hard to communicate my true feelings calmly, but with forgiveness, the full acceptance of who and where we are, it is possible.  I need to practice a lot more, of course, but just the thought that it is possible is very empowering for me.

Also, it is a big responsibility as well, because it is totally up to me whether I stay attached to the negative emotions or become and stay free from them and rise above.

It is your turn to feel the freedom!

If you have familiar negative emotional patterns, chronic pain in your bodies caused by some accidents, surgeries or birth processes, or repetitive patterns in communications, relationships, etc., I highly recommend you to take some time to work on your forgiveness.

By freeing your attachments to the old emotions, you will gain deeper understanding and compassion in everyone and everything and empowerment for yourself.

Over to you-:

Please share your insights and experiences about forgiveness in the comment section.  Thank you in advance!