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Start Listening Deeply to Yourself, and Become Who You Truly Are!

Listen deeply and become who you truly are

Hand-drawn mandala, “Becoming Who You Are”

At 10:30 pm, you are about to go to bed, and yet, you are still thinking about what happened to you at work today.

Your boss criticized you for how you dealt with a problem.

You can think of millions of good reasons why you handled the situation in that way.

So, you are going over those reasons one by one in your head under the blanket.

Then, when you run out of the reasons, you start to going over the things that you should’ve explained to your boss.

You take a look at the clock.  It says 11:38 pm.  Sigh…  “I gotta sleep!”

The next moment, your head is already going over the thing that happened at work for the 13th times.

Complaining

I found this Huffington Post article (Read the full post) written by Dr. Travis Bradberry about what complaining does to our brain through Dr. Joe Dispenza’s post on Facebook (Yes, I’m so into his study!  If you are interested, please visit his website: ).

According to this article, on average, we complain once every 5 minutes.  When I read that, I thought to myself, “Really?  I don’t complain that mu…., wait.  I DO complain that much!!”

When a car cuts me off, when my phone is slow, when the line at the cashier is long and slow, when it’s cold, when it’s raining…

The article also explains how complaining damages our health.

A repetitive feeling creates a pathway in our brain because our brain likes its efficiency.  As we use that pathway by having the similar feeling over and over, we reinforce that pathway.

That means complaining a lot reinforces the complaining pathway in our brain.

Complaining, or I should say, repetitive negative feelings make our fight/flight system in the brain more active.  Also, they make the hippocampus, which is mainly in charge of our long-term memory, contracted.  Basically, by complaining a lot, we make ourselves more exhausted and more prone to Alzheimer’s when we get old.

Listening Deeply to the Layers of Feelings

“At the center of your being
you have the answer;
you know who you are
and you know what you want.” – Lao Tsu

Having feelings is a natural thing.  We are here on Earth in our physical bodies to experience everything, so there is no problem to feel emotions.

When we start to attach to some of them, they become issues, and when we keep attaching to them, they become negative patterns and start to affect our lives in many ways.

Then, what can we do about it?

I recommend listening deeply into the layers of the feelings.  It takes some practice at the beginning, but it will get easier soon.

Here is how you do it.

  1. Take a few good deep breaths.  Breathing consciously helps our mind slow down and also helps us stay grounded and present.  We can create a change only when we are solidly grounded here and now, NOT by hanging onto the past or worrying about the future.
  2. Label the feeling what kind of emotion it is.  It helps us feel the feeling objectively.
  3. Ask yourself whether the emotion is familiar to you or not.  As the phrase ‘someone pushes my buttons’ describes, once we are an adult, our emotional patterns are pretty much set.  We all have some emotional buttons.  So, ask yourself whether you are experiencing the emotion because of one of those buttons.
  4. Ask yourself where (or from whom) and when you inherited that emotional patterns.  Usually, the patterns that we have were inherited from the people around us when we were kids.  Or, because of traumatic events, we created those patterns as our defense mechanisms.  Understanding how we end up having those patterns helps us let them go with more ease and grace.
  5. Feel that emotion out until something lighter and more loving feeling emanates.  This sounds like it’s going to take a long time, but no worries.  Once you can feel the emotion objectively without stories circling in your head, it takes only some moments – probably a couple of breaths.  You will notice the lighter and more loving feelings coming closer to you.  That is your compassion and love coming to the surface from the deeper layers within you.
  6. Send the compassion and love to the patterns and the people who gave them to you and let the patterns go.  Once you fill your heart with that loving feeling, just allow the Greater Source to take them away and recycle them for the highest good of all.
  7. Think of who you really want to be and visualize it as clearly as possible.  By visualizing who you truly are as clearly as possible, you are rewiring your brain.  So, try to imagine how you would behave, how you would interact with people, and how you would think when you become a new you without those emotional patterns.  This is the part of designing new you.
  8. Take some moments to allow the Greater Source to reprogram you.  The Greater Source, the Divine, the Universe, the Quantum Field…, whatever you call it, allow the divine essence to reprogram you.  This is the part I like the best.  To me, it feels that I am just floating in the vast space while all the downloads and reprogramming are happening on the subtlest level.  Sometimes, I get messages or guidance as well.
  9. Keep practicing it.  The more you practice, the more you reconnect to your true self and the Greater Power.  You will start noticing other patterns more easily, realigning them with your highest good, and living your life more fully.

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?” – Lao Tsu, Tao Te Ching

Conclusion

Listening is a great tool to know where you are right now.  If you hear yourself complaining in your head about what already happened, then you are living your past.

If you hear yourself being anxious about tomorrow, then you are living your future.

When you notice it, take a deep breath, bring yourself back to this moment, and start listening deeply into the layers of the feelings.

You already have all the answers and support you need within.  Listening deeply allows you to connect to them.

Dive into yourself, and start creating your heaven on Earth!

Over to you:-

Please share your insights and your experiences in the comment section!

P.S.

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Also, the registration for “6-Week Life Artisan Program” is open.

P.P.S.

The new mandala, “Creating My Heaven on Earth,” in progress.

The flower of life

“The flower of life” has started to bloom!

 

Love Yourself Deeply, and Start Creating Your Heaven on Earth!

Loving Truly

Start Loving Yourself Truly!

Do You Love Yourself?

Do you ever wonder whether you love yourself deeply and truly?

Do you love every bit of yourself?

Are there any parts of yourself that you hate?

Have you ever wondered whether you could love even those parts that you hate?

What do you love about yourself?

What do you hate about yourself?

Last year, I did a lot of inner work.  I worked on every aspect of my life that I could think of: money, relationships, forgiveness, my self-identity, and so on through listening to my heart as deeply as I could.

I had some good results from all those inner work, but at the same time,   I was punishing myself every time I found a negative pattern in myself.  Also, I was looking at myself as a damaged goods.  We probably can call it a trap of the spiritual work.

I didn’t notice what I was actually doing at the beginning, but as I was feeling exhausted and even a little depressed, I started to realize how important it is to love myself fully and truly.  Then, those questions above started to pop up in my head one by one.

The Right Information at the Right Time

These are the feelings and symptoms that I was experiencing about a month ago:

a heaviness in my head

a tightness in and around my heart

a chronic pain in the shoulders, upper back, and neck

a funky digestive system

an exhaustion

no motivation to start new creative things, and more…

I really wanted to know why I was feeling that way.  So, I asked the Universe for a help and started to research.

Then, I found a bunch of videos on YouTube by a research scientist, Dr. Joe Dispenza.  Boy, the Universe DOES know a perfect timing!  In those videos, Dr. Joe Dispenza explains how our emotions and mind affect our body, environment, and life from a scientific standpoint (if you are interested, watch this video).

Basically, what he says is that our emotional and thought patterns create neural pathways in our brain.  By thinking the same thoughts and same emotions, we strengthen those pathways.

For example, you tend to think, “I can’t afford it right now” everytime you find something you want to purchase.  Then, your brain creates the neural pathway.  Then, the brain keeps sending the same signal to the body and strengthen the pattern.  And then, your heart starts to sending the signal through its electromagnetic field to the Universe, and you become more and more prone not to be able to buy what you want.

Plus, while that’s happening, your fight/flight system becomes more active, because those negative thoughts and emotions are not loving for you.  So, you start to feel tired, unhappy, and depressed.

Bouncing Back

After I watched most of his videos and started to understand what was going on to myself biologically, I began to get my answers to those questions above.

Also, I started doing his meditations (this is the one I’ve been using), I was able to feel my body being reprogrammed on the genetic level.  All those exhaustions and depression were gone.

Also, I get a message from my true self every time I meditate and start loving one more part of myself such as:

“I belong here on Earth.”

“I love my life.”

“Stop reacting. Start creating.”

Not only that, I get clear images of what has been going on and how I can change them as if I’m downloading a new blueprint to start a new life as new ME.

It’s Time to Build My New Life!

Now that I understand how our mind creates our reality, I feel so hopeful.  I know there will be a long way ahead, but just by thinking that the more I become gentle on myself and love myself, the more easily I can create my heart desiring life, I feel very grateful to be existing right here right now as me.

The hopefulness helped me start drawing a new mandala, “Creating My Heaven on Earth”

a pencil mandala drawing

Time to color!

I will probably have more realizations through drawing this mandala and through the process of creating the new life I want.  I will write about them as they come.  So, stay tuned!

Over to you:-

I would love to hear your experiences about loving yourselves.  Please feel free to share your stories in the comment section!

P.S.

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The Sacred Method That Deepens Your Spiritual Growth- Tao of Mandala

“The mandala is an archetypal image whose occurrence is attested throughout the ages. It signifies the wholeness of the Self. This circular image represents the wholeness of the psychic ground or, to put it in mythic terms, the divinity incarnates in man.” – Carl G. Jung

You’ve read countless books about spirituality, personal development, and healing.

You’ve been diligently following the teachings of spiritual teachers for a long time.

You have so much knowledge about the divine love, the Universe, the Law of Attraction, etc.

You enjoy the conversation with people who are also enthusiastic about spirituality from the bottom of your heart.

You sometimes give your friends and family some spiritual advice.  They truly appreciate it which makes you feel content, and yet, you sometimes wonder,

“Am I doing it right?”

“Why am I still feeling stuck?”

“Why do I still keep falling into the same pattern?”

Do I sound like I’m reading your mind?  I’m not.  This was me for a long time.

Until recently, I was just soaking my feet in the ocean of the spirituality.  I realized that I needed to dive in fully if I wanted to live my spirituality as my true-self.

So let’s dive in.

Meditation and Mandalas

I talked about the benefits of meditation in my last post (The Simplest Way to Live as Your True-Self), here is the recap:

Physically:

1. meditation balances your nervous system.

2. it calms the blood pressure.

3. it regulates the digestive system and relaxes your whole body.

Emotionally:

you feel happier and start to have a healthy emotional boundary.

Mentally:

you get more clarity, focus, and productivity.

Also, I introduced mandalas as the powerful tool for your meditation practice in the same post.

Here are the benefits:

1. A circle or symmetrical geometric designs can calm your brain waves and nervous systems.

2. Looking at a mandala enhances all the benefits of meditation.

3. It leads you easily to the higher frequency of love rather than the lower frequency of fear.

4. It deepens your self-inquiry.

Now, I would like to dig a little deeper on both meditation and mandalas in this post.

Real, Deep Meditation Practice

There are different styles of meditation.  Type in the word “meditation” in the search box on YouTube, you will find hundreds of videos of guided meditations, meditations with special sound effects, and so on.

They are all useful, and some of them are very powerful.  I have both used them and uploaded guided meditations with my hand-drawn mandalas on YouTube (“Quan Yin’s Healing meditation,” “Forgiveness meditation,” and “Abundance meditation”) as well.

However, just recently, I noticed that my mind was getting busier during a guided meditation once I got used to it.

So, I decided just to sit still without any guidance, music or sound effects.  I started to listen deeply to myself for 20 minutes every morning and every evening.

Then, I started to feel more connected to myself, the surroundings, the Mother Earth and the Universe!

I notice every old emotion that is ready to be released.  I notice every memory and experience that needs to be embraced.  And I can feel and hear the guidance of my true-self.

So, here is what I believe now.

If you want to solve specific patterns like a financial issue or a relationship issue, guided meditations are useful.  It is like receiving a great healing session.

If you want to connect more to your true-self, you need time to be with you.  You need to listen deeply to your wholeness. Allow every level of you to relax in your divinity by sitting quietly in stillness for 20 minutes every morning.  Set your day with the Universe and Mother Earth.  For another 20 minutes every evening, sit still to cleanse your day like you take a shower before you go to bed.

I really recommend this deep meditation practice if you want to trust yourself more, accept yourself more and love yourself more.

Tao of Mandala

As you could see in the quote at the top by the Swiss psychotherapist, Carl G. Jung, he not only used mandalas for his work with his clients but also drew them for his own personal development.

I’ve been drawing mandalas for several years now.  Each mandala helped me dig deeper within me.  They reminded me of the importance of living as the expanded consciousness, NOT the small me.  They also led me to the inner stillness.

I call these brilliant effects Tao of Mandala.

Here are the benefits that I have found in drawing mandalas:

1. it calms you.

When I draw, I use a technique called stippling (drawing with dots).  Though it requires a lot of patience, it also leads you to deep meditative space.

2. it helps you to listen more deeply to yourself.

To create any artwork, you explore inside you to find what you want to express.

3. it helps you to learn to trust your instinct (your true self).

Your instinct tells you what designs or what colors to use.

4. it helps you to connect you to your own divine creation.

Like Jung said, a mandala is an art that expresses your wholeness or your divinity.  To draw your mandala, you naturally connect to your own divine creation.

5. it helps you to learn how to tune into the higher vibration of energy.

This happens to me when I draw healing energy into a mandala such as “Quan Yin’s Healing Energy.”  I tuned into her healing energy and became a facilitator for it while I was drawing it.

6. it helps you to learn how to hold space for your or someone’s wholeness.

By drawing mandalas, you learn to tune into your expanded consciousness.  From there, you can hold space for your or someone’s wholeness.  Then, you start to see yourself, everyone and everything through your divine eyes.  I will write a little more about this point in the next chapter.

Inner Life Mandalas

I draw two types of mandalas: healing mandalas and personal (customized) mandalas.

Healing mandalas are the ones expressing the higher healing vibration such as “Awakening” below.  When you meditate with them, the energy of the mandalas helps you accelerate the inner work you are working on and heal from within.

a mandala titled "Awakening"

“Awakening”

I call the other type of mandalas – personal mandalas – Inner Life Mandalas.

The process of creating one goes like this:

1. I have an interview with the customer and build trust by going over his/her goals and intentions for the mandala.

2. I meditate on the wholeness of the person and tune into the deepest quality of his/hers.  Then, those qualities come to me as designs and colors.

3. I start drawing.

By doing these, I get to see, sense and know the person for the way they are through his/her beautiful, precious essence.  Even though the 15-minute interview is the only time I spent with the person, I always feel like I’ve known him/her for a long, long time.  I believe that sensation is true.  I think I’m in the zone of ONENESS during the creation.

The Experiences of Drawing My Own

After I drew a few Inner Life Mandalas for some customers, I drew my own.

Personal Mandala drawn with gel pens

My Inner Life Mandala

Usually, I feel awed by the powerful, beautiful energy of the person’s essence, but that didn’t happen while I was drawing mine.  To tell you the truth, I felt a little disappointed.

However, an interesting thing happened to me when I put my Inner Life Mandala under the massage table during my Craniosacral therapy session.

As soon as the session started, my practitioner, who is my craniosacral therapy mentor, said,

“Wow, this is so powerful!”

I started to feel my whole body trembling slightly, especially along the spine.  It felt like a high vibration of energy was adjusting the core of my body.

Then, the relaxing, and yet, powerful energy expanded into my whole body and into my whole energy field.  I felt so relaxed that my consciousness also went into a deep meditative state.

After the session, my mentor told me that the energy of my Inner Life Mandala was alchemically adjusting my whole system.  That was exactly what I was feeling.

Since then, my whole life shifted.  I’ve had so many revelations of old emotional, mental, and behavioral patterns.  I got to embrace them and let them go.  I quit the part time job that was just for paying the bills.  Then, I started my blog and mandala business to live my heart desired life fully.

I’m still on the way to my final goal, and I sometimes feel overwhelmed by the challenges I face.  When that happens, I rest my body and brain and meditate with my Inner Life Mandala to adjust my course.

Inner Life Mandala is a great reminder of who you truly are and an awesome guide for your life path.

(I’m having an Inner Life Mandala campaign right now.  For details, please check this page.)

To Conclude,

The busier our life gets, the more important it becomes to have a quality time with yourself.  The real, deep meditation is perfect for it.  It helps us more grounded, become good listeners to other people and ourselves, and act from the love based decisions, NOT fear based decisions.

Mandala is a great tool to deepen your meditation practice.  By drawing them, you start to know who you truly are better and better.  By meditating with them, they deepen your meditation practice, guide you to your deepest quality, and help you create your life you want.

Over to you:-

What are your experiences with your meditation practice?  Do you have other techniques that deepen your meditation practice?  Please share your insights in the comment section.